Femtorship is what happens when we set traditional mentorship on fire and build something softer, smarter, and far more powerful in its place. In this episode of The Feminist Reclamation, Daddy Heather and Miss Rose dive into femme-led mentoring in kink and in “vanilla” life, and why the old top-down, guru-style model was always built for patriarchy, not for us.

We unpack the difference between mentoring and grooming, how “I’ll show you the ropes” can slide into exploitation, and what it looks like to create femme-driven structures of support that center consent, boundaries, and emotional safety. From Dom Scouts and community tastings to soft skills like negotiating dynamics, handling mistakes in scene, and processing shame without dumping emotional labor on the most vulnerable person in the room, this conversation is part tea, part toolkit.

You’ll hear us explore:

• Femtorship as collaborative, village-style growth instead of “one true mentor” worship
• Witnessing instead of fixing, and why being seen is sometimes the deepest form of care
• Consent, yes/no practice, and building real boundaries when you never had any modeled
• Burnout, compassion fatigue, and how pleasure activism keeps our work sustainable
• Healing internalized misogyny and using femtorship as grassroots matriarchy building

If you’ve ever wanted sisterhood instead of hierarchy, guidance without grooming, and a community that believes you are both powerful and still allowed to need support, this episode is your invitation. Grab your coven and listen in.